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TEMPLE OF SAFETY
PREAMBLE
Let these rights be known as the common recognition and understanding for foundational rights afforded within relationships. Let them stand to discredit the acceptance of control and oppression within our day to day relationships.
All are afforded these rights by the nature of being human. Nothing has to be done to earn them, deserve them or keep them.
They are not bargaining chips or something to strive or plead for. They are yours from the moment you enter in to the relationship to the moment you leave should you wish to.
These are the pillars of safety that make a temple within which you can safely reside.
FOUNDATION
Article 1. You have the right to leave your partner if you are unhappy, without fear of what they may then do in retribution.
FIRST PILLAR: A RIGHT TO EXIST WITHOUT FEAR, CONTROL OR INTIMIDATION.
Article 2. You have the right to experience life free from language you find demeaning, that puts you down, ridicules you or impacts your self esteem.
Article 3. You have the right to experience life without being physically, sexually, mentally or financially abused. This looks like being hit, harmed, scared, sexually forced or coerced in to any sexual act, or controlled in any way that makes you uncomfortable or unable to live your life freely.
Article 4. You have the right to experience life without anger being directed at you in an intimidating or scary way. This includes being 'told off', shouting, punching walls, destroying furniture, being either ignored, silenced or harassed in retaliation.
SECOND PILLAR: A RIGHT TO AGENCY WITHIN YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP AND HOME.
Article 6. You have the right to experience life without feeling frightened of actions your partner may take (or threaten to take.)
Article 7. You have the right for your intentions and actions to be viewed without suspicion or as if you are acting from malice.
Article 8. You have the right to an equal say over important decisions that impact both your lives, without being worn down, intimidated or scared in to agreeing.
Article 9. You have the right to have your own space respected in your own home and for your home to be a safe place for you to rest in.
Article 5. You have the right to be told the truth, and freely given information that impacts your life without having to search or beg for it.
THIRD PILLAR: A RIGHT TO FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND TO BE YOURSELF WITHIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Article 10. You have the right to talk about relationship worries with your partner without fear of retribution, retaliation, or silent treatment.
Article 11. You have a right to live a life where you are kindly asked, not ordered or controlled, in to what you do with your mind, body or time.
Article 12. You have the right to freedom of speech and expression of your true self within your relationship.
FOURTH PILLAR: A RIGHT TO FULFILMENT OUTSIDE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Article 14. You have the right to enough rest and mental space within your relationship to allow for self development, friends and fulfilment outside of the relationship.
Article 15. You have the right to equal financial and economic freedom within your relationship, even when looking after children.
Article 16. You have the right to an equal amount of rest and leisure time as your partner.
Article 13. You have the right to wholly different opinions and feelings to your partner without being forced to change your mind.
Wilma Woolf, Temple of Safety, 2025
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